tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5968041563920742433.post4314704866133685271..comments2007-09-20T12:45:41.492-04:00Cecehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12807204748664302088noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5968041563920742433.post-82038359370401509852007-09-20T12:45:00.000-04:002007-09-20T12:45:00.000-04:00Happy Birthday -- enjoy your day!<BR/><BR/>I applaud your perspective on your situation and wish I could borrow your optimism! It is great that you have such empathy for others suffering loss. And I am glad for you that IF hasn't seemed to make yout bitter, that's a tough one to avoid!Waiting Amyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487061896648183375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5968041563920742433.post-6192412869475923242007-09-19T23:37:00.000-04:002007-09-19T23:37:00.000-04:00Oh damn Cece, i forgot to add:<BR/><BR/>Happy Birthday and I hope and pray you become one of those people I secretly envy because the two of you will be kick ass parents and it's time the dogs had some competetion!amysuehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573946457771247040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5968041563920742433.post-77035911847569745172007-09-19T23:34:00.000-04:002007-09-19T23:34:00.000-04:00I gotta say, even with adoption having been the right plan for us (hey!it worked for my parents!), even though I am 46 and unlikely to have been able to get pregnant anyway, the fact that there is no chance at all, still hurts some days. I joke alot because that's who I am, but as someone who knew from a fairly young age that she was not likely to have bio kids and then to have that made definite with surgery means a lot of years of hearing "just relax" and not always biting back the response 'I can relax all i want I still need an ovary and a uterus you fool'.<BR/><BR/>I think loss is very personal and what might be devastating for one family can be less so for another. I also think that folks who've never had to deal with infertility or pregnancy loss or related issues, rarely get it.<BR/><BR/>And I have a dark and dirty secret for you, deep down, and I rarely admit this, I think that those folks who are successful in their quest have a bio kid become one of "them". I'm ashamed of that, but sometimes it's how I feel. even now. Even with two great kids. Even at 46. It still hurts.amysuehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573946457771247040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5968041563920742433.post-88137293651286763892007-09-19T20:15:00.000-04:002007-09-19T20:15:00.000-04:00Happy Birthday!Changing Expectationshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10175429623370829712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5968041563920742433.post-10007038008991573412007-09-19T02:02:00.000-04:002007-09-19T02:02:00.000-04:00Haaapy birthday to you, happy birthday to you,<BR/><BR/>Haaaapy birrrthday, happy birthday,<BR/><BR/>Happy birthday to you!<BR/><BR/>xx<BR/><BR/>JGeohdehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09084396088622931768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5968041563920742433.post-8814181148600962352007-09-19T00:28:00.000-04:002007-09-19T00:28:00.000-04:00Happy Birthday and thanks for reading.<BR/><BR/>Oh lord. That pink cupcake. I'm on weight watchers now and reading my own quoted words made me want to scrape old crumbs out of the cookie jar with my fingernails. <BR/><BR/>What Emilia has to realize before she can grow up and be the kind of person she is capable of being is that her pain isn't license to shit on the world. Seems to me like you are about nine million steps ahead of the game. At least ahead of her game.<BR/>Thanks for reading!Ayelethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16703318078355532810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5968041563920742433.post-73673224377902068662007-09-18T21:23:00.000-04:002007-09-18T21:23:00.000-04:00Happy Birthday! Your massage sounds interesting. <BR/><BR/>I like your idea about people's comments and it is great that you are content in your life even during your journey.Debhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07867933967446707278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5968041563920742433.post-71894170649790120052007-09-18T20:34:00.000-04:002007-09-18T20:34:00.000-04:00Happy Birthday! I really hope it was a special one!<BR/><BR/>I really loved your positive attitude in your reactions. We all need to laugh it off sometimes to stay sane, I believe. And while I strive to appreciate the good in my life, I often allow the bad to overshadow it. You are truly admirable for being able to look past that.Kristenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03542962726270982824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5968041563920742433.post-29000084702355618782007-09-18T20:08:00.000-04:002007-09-18T20:08:00.000-04:00Happy birthday! I'll put it in L & F tomorrow too.<BR/><BR/>I love your answer to the third question. It has such peace behind the words.The Town Criershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5968041563920742433.post-23954118998648701702007-09-18T19:42:00.000-04:002007-09-18T19:42:00.000-04:00First off, let me join the Happy Birthday chorus.<BR/><BR/>What a healthy attitude you have, to not allow having a baby to make or break your life. Sometimes I wish I spent more time counting my blessings than weighing my perceived deficiencies.<BR/><BR/>Hope you enjoyed La Stone!Lorihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5968041563920742433.post-73480838671327657942007-09-18T19:07:00.000-04:002007-09-18T19:07:00.000-04:00Happy birthday, birthday girl!mamacatehttp://mamacate.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5968041563920742433.post-45917342385060878012007-09-18T16:27:00.000-04:002007-09-18T16:27:00.000-04:00Happy Birthday!!mary ellenhttp://maryellenandsteve.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5968041563920742433.post-62288819476264309562007-09-18T15:20:00.000-04:002007-09-18T15:20:00.000-04:00Happy Birthday and I hope you enjoy your massage.<BR/><BR/>I appreciated your sharing the ways you help stay positive during this journey. I could take a lesson from your book sometime : )<BR/><BR/>Best of luck with your upcoming IVF.Ms. Plannerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01409133656377265127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5968041563920742433.post-11048969187333679082007-09-18T14:21:00.000-04:002007-09-18T14:21:00.000-04:00Happy birthday! Enjoy your day and your massage.Chrishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06347894813987993138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5968041563920742433.post-11568026780393788712007-09-18T13:30:00.000-04:002007-09-18T13:30:00.000-04:00I have a step-daughter, I should read that book. I love my step-daughter (she is almost 12 and I met my husband when she was 4)- she has been in my life for a long time now. HOWEVER, my yearning for my own baby does make it hard sometimes to love her unconditionally. I have this constant feeling that I am taking care of someone else's child - especially since her mom is still very much in the picture. I feel like a 3rd wheel. <BR/><BR/>Out of the mouth of babes: The other day I was with my step-daughter and we were looking at this really cute baby....she said, 'Don't you and dad want a baby?' I answered, 'Yes, we do'. And she said, "Well - what's stopping you then?!?!" I didn't really know what to say, so I just said, 'Sometimes it is not as easy as you would like'. Anyway, it can be really hard, and maybe I should be more thankful, but that first 4 years of my step-daughter's life - I was not part of it. It is VERY different than having my own child. And truth be told, this is why I am not going to adopt.<BR/><BR/>Sorry for such a long post. Happy Birthday!Baby Stephttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02752242861549122606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5968041563920742433.post-69939780533648104632007-09-18T13:15:00.000-04:002007-09-18T13:15:00.000-04:00Hope your when is soon, too.Drowned Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07930956007436787200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5968041563920742433.post-10885989340104594142007-09-18T13:07:00.000-04:002007-09-18T13:07:00.000-04:00Happy Birthday!!<BR/><BR/>I like your take on not trying to educate the rest of the world about infertility....I feel that way more and more lately. <BR/><BR/>Having a family is indeed a matter of when....hope your when is soon!!<BR/><BR/>Amy<BR/>dancingwithinfertility.blogspot.comamyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00679719974984886567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5968041563920742433.post-26168218660656160752007-09-18T12:13:00.000-04:002007-09-18T12:13:00.000-04:00Happy birthday!<BR/><BR/>You take a very selfless view of your own situation, but don't discount your own pain and suffering. Infertility and ectopic pregnancy are not nothing! I felt like Emilia it would have done Emilia some good to consider other's pain without feeling like she had to discount it.Samanthahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02799401502134619497noreply@blogger.com