Thursday, September 25, 2008

Boy or Girl?

So. Since Aaron and I have decided not to find out the gender of our little one.... I currently find myself obsessed with what is IN THERE.

I say to myself I don't care. Because, really, I don't. But then I get more honest with myself. For whatever reason, I've always pictured myself with a daughter. But when I think of this baby in my belly, it's a boy? I think some of it is that I get nervous that I remember, first hand, the challenges that a girl goes through growing up - wanting to be thin, pretty, popular. Boobs, zits, periods... friends....BOYfriends. But then I realize - I bet boys have those same issues too? I just didn't live through them myself.

I just want a happy, healthy child. But the closer I get to my due date - I'm really really REALLY curious as to what sort of little baby is growing! And it's not only gender... whose eyes will it have? Will it have curly hair or straight? I guess this is part of the excitement that comes with the 3rd trimester.

What about you all? Did you really have a preference for a boy/girl? Honestly? Why?

16 comments:

bleu said...

I so love it when people don't find out beforehand. I waited with Bliss as well.

As for preference, here is the thing. part of me, as a woman, would of course love a daughter, but honestly I could find so many things to love about either.

There is something about the relationship of mama's and sons, and now having been with that for years now, it IS amazing, very very amazing. Then there is the idea of having a daughter and her having a child and all that.

I am with you on the scary part of daughters, my fear is that I do not know of any daughter that did not "leave" her mother, at least for a time, even with the best relationships, and that scares me. The stats on women being sexually assaulted in their lifetime also terrifies me.

But honestly, I never had anything beyond wistfulness for tiny bits of time that changed constantly.

Jen said...

I totally thought I was having a boy. But now that I know its a girl, I think that is what I secretly wanted all along but was too afraid to admit to myself.

I have to say that while I'm excited about having a baby girl, the thought of having a teenaged girl scares the crap out of me. I don't think I ever really was a teenaged girl myself. All the giggling and gossip and boy talk...ack!!!

M de P said...

Here via ICLW...

I think it's great that you didn't find out the sex of the baby!! If I ever would have had a pregnancy, I wouldn't want to find out either. In our adoption agency, we couldn't select a gender preference, so it was a surprise for us anyway. I always said it didn't really matter, but I am (not so secretly) really happy that we have a girl. I have just one sister and no brothers, so I am just more used to girls. My husband has a younger brother with downs syndrome who he is very close to and has helped to take care of his whole life, so I'm sure he would have been a good guide to my life with a boy, but we are both thrilled with our baby girl.

edie & ella said...

I wanted 1 of each since I knew we were having twins but my husband wanted BOTH girls interestingly enough. Girls are so much fun to dress...sam

Portraits In Sepia said...

Loved the title of your blog so much that I had to check it out.
I always wanted a girl. Now I will take anything even if it is polka dotted and has horns. I now understand why women will say "as long as it's healthy". I used to think that was a lame answer but now....not so much. I get it.
Here from ICLW!

Fertilized said...

I secretly wanted a girl, then not so secretly .. Then I had suspicious feelings that I was carrying a boy. I went back and forth about it. When, then I found out I was really having a boy, I was just so excited to actually know. It was so exciting and amazing. That was the moment I really finally felt a connection to the baby. It was just such a sweet moment for myself. One that truly remember like it was yesterday

Kristin said...

I never had a preference but I always pictured myself with girls (I grew up in a family of all girls). Kind of funny that I ended up with 3 boys...LOL.

Boys are fabulous and a lot of fun.

Geohde said...

I had no preference, but was kind of relieved to find out we were having girls. Even though puberty in my household is going to be an utter hormonal nightmare x2, at least I remember how it goes....

J

emily said...

wow, first i just want to say 10 weeks to go! I'm so excited... I'm sure you're more excited than I am!

I think I wanted a girl all along, and Eric wanted a boy, and we just assumed that was because that's what each of us is. I was terrified to have a boy... I just don't know what to do with them! Our family was all girls, too, so no help from the past. Plus Eric was in Iraq nearly the whole pregnancy so he kind of let me do whatever I wanted concerning finding out. I wanted to know b/c I felt like I had no control over anything at that point, so at least I could plan things knowing if it would be a girl or boy.

I try not to think much about puberty... good god! I'll just let that reality slap me in the face when it gets here. But who knows, maybe there will be another mini me added to the mix to temper things in the future. (i'm not speaking cryptically, we're talking about it though.)

Kate said...

I wanted a boy b/c I am TERRIFIED of the teenage years. haha

Beautiful Mess said...

When I was pregnant with my daughter I wanted a girl! A prissy, spoiled, pink wearing little princess that demanded something from me ALL the time. Just like her Mama. She grew up into a girl who does NOT like pink *anti-pink* and would rather shop in the boy's section because "the clothes are more comfortable". I didn't get my "princess pink" baby girl, but she knows exactly who she is and I respect her so much for that.

With my son, I KNEW I was having a boy. I could tell. I had dreams about what he was going to look like at 6 months, it was weird. I was scared to death to raise a boy. I don't do mud, trucks, wrestling, or any kind of "boy stuff". From the time of his birth I've done nothing but get dirty and I have loved every minute of our 5 years together at home. Raising a boy is messier then raising a girl, in my experience.

Of course, either way you will love your child more then you'd ever thought possible and that right there is enough to make a woman cry her eyes out *like I'm doing right now*

Enjoy your weekend and that beautiful baby in your belly!
-D *ICLW*

Frieda said...

I really wanted a girl first. I have three brothers and did not want a boy the first time. My dh tells people he had to bribe me to have another baby I was so content with the girl. We did not find out the gender either and the delivery was long. Hope you are feeling great. We finally got power back yesterday and I really love air conditioning.

serenity said...

It's so fun that you're not finding out - for me, it seemed really the only unplanned part of my pregnancy (of course, the delivery was the second surprise - was SO not ready at 37w, but Baby O was!).

That said, I always, always, ALWAYS wanted two boys before I had Baby O, so I was happy that my instinct was right and he was a boy.

Course, now that I have him, I often look over at the little girl section of BRU longingly and wish I could buy the cute pink outfits. Funny how that works! :)

tobacco brunette said...

Before I was pregnant I always wanted a little girl. Then when I got my BFP this time around, I knew for certain it would be a boy and I was totally at peace with that. When they confirmed he was a boy at 20 weeks, I'll admit to a few moments of disappointment - all related to superficial things like no pig tails or pink nurseries - but as I've bonded with him over these 9 months, I can't imagine now having a girl. I'm completely excited to have a son...

I can't wait to see which you have.

Kenya said...

I really had no preference and I really wish that my DH had kept his trap shut and let us be surprised. It's so worth it. I knew the whole time that I was having another girl for some reason. I just felt it.

MrsSpock said...

I truly don't care about gender, but I admit to grazing the girl section of BRU when I'm looking for clothes for my son.

That said, I have no desire to ever wait to find out the gender. For me, the surprise is at the ultrasound. I like to plan ahead, and I didn't feel that knowing took something away from his birth. the real surpise was the c-section...