Thursday, August 30, 2007

I did it.

I wrote my MIL an e-mail yesterday, just explaining what a frustrating summer this has been for me. With all the stupid insurance and doctor problems. And why that has limited our trips. And she called this morning, and we had a good talk. I know it's wimpy to start conversations like this over email, but that is what I did.

My FSIL is so much better at handling my MIL - she mostly just grins and bears it. So, I took a lesson from her, and just talked to her. It's funny how she has no idea that she treats us differently than others in the family. But I've kind of come to the realization that I just need to let it go. This morning, when I mentioned how much it sucks to just be always waiting? She says, even though she didn't have trouble getting pregnant, there was one time when she tried for 2 months to get pregnant, and it was like it was the end of the world for her. So she says she multiplies that, and she can totally understand how I am feeling.

Maybe she can. But I doubt it.

I grew up with such a small family. I never had to deal with drama like this. I hate it. Always needing to worry about visiting and updating everyone. The rules of what is done for birthday's and holidays. Keeping count of who visited who last and how many times someone has called someone else. Augh!

In other news, I'm starting the Couch to 5K running program with Aaron and my friend Amanda next week. I've never been a great runner - but I'm getting bored with walking. I'm loving the new spin classes at my new gym... and will be starting up with swim team again next week. So, I'm switching it up a little! Anyone else want to join me?

8 comments:

Samantha said...

I'm glad you explained yourself to your MIL and I hope that it will make things a little less awkward.

I'm not a runner, but I hope you enjoy it!

Reproductive Jeans said...

Thats awesome courage you have! Way to go--you should be very proud of yourself!=)

I am committing to walking every day in September--I have to get back into a routine!

Chili said...

It's nice that she's tried to understand - but I think it requires more than multiplying - you have to raise it exponentially for each additional cycle.

Good for you for talking it out with her!

Geohde said...

Good on you for tackling the issue, even if it's not easy.

Double good on you for the couch to 5k thing, thats awesome!

Emily said...

It's not wimpy... I figure you must start somewhere! And couch to 5K sounds great, will check it out!

karen said...

Good for you for sending the email to your MIL! And there's nothing at all wimpy about sending email; it simple gives you the opportunity to think about what you really want to say.

And I agree that it's nice that she's at least trying to understand how you're feeling. She may not actually be able to get there, but at least it shows the potential for a bit of empathy.

Baby Step said...

5Ks are so much fun! I am not a runner either (I run 11 minute miles or something like that) but I really enjoy the races - I always go much faster during a race without even noticing it. Swimming is the best, that is my exercise of choice.

Good for you for getting it all out with your MIL. I had to laugh when she compared how you must be feeling to when she had to wait 2 months to get preggo.

Mary Ellen said...

Good for you for telling your MIL how you feel. At least now she knows and hopefully it will help things.