I don't know about the rest of you, but Aaron and I rarely sit down and talk. Really talk. Aaron is up and out of the house before I even wake up. We work all day, and any communication is usually text messages related to picking up milk, kids or telling to other that we'll be late. When we get home, we do all eat dinner together, but any conversation is constantly interrupted by requests for more milk, rushing to grab a paper towel before the mess hits the rug or a child running to the potty. And the conversation we do have is about our day, work or plans for the next few days. After the kids are in bed, we are cleaning up dinner, logging onto computers, or working a our different hobbies.
We just never sit and TALK. About life. About hopes and dreams. About things that are in the back of our minds. Not that we don't want to, but that stuff gets pushed to the wayside for the daily grind. And date nights? As we love the movies, we usually opt to go to a movie theater, where we sit and hold hands and watch a screen. If we do go to dinner, it's a quick hour or so to rush back to the sitter.
I knew we needed a night away from the kids, but I didn't realize how great it would be. We let our hair down. We had an insanely expensive dinner that was quiet possibly the best dinner I've ever had. We drank a bit too much. We talked about our wonderful kids, how we still miss Nora, how our life is pretty damn great, and what we want to do. We giggled and teased each other and just had FUN. It was wonderful.
We got back to the hotel, sat in the bar and talked MORE, went up to the room (leaving to the imagination a few hours of time) slept like rocks and then woke up, ready to go hug our kids.
I felt like we were already doing a good job of connecting as a couple. We do date nights, we give each other time away from the kids, we often spilt up the kids so that each kid has alone time with each parent... but this overnight? I am going to be telling all parents to do this. Take a full night off together. Have a wonderful dinner. Drink some adult beverages. Reconnect.