Monday, June 4, 2007

Sundae for Dinner Day

When I was a kid, my mom never let me have dessert. Or candy. But, when we had a rather horrendous day.... she would declare it Sundae for Dinner - and off we would go to Friendly's for a Reese's Pieces Sundae and that is all we would have for dinner.

Yesterday, I left work and went to yoga. That helped, and I felt a little bit better after yesterday's drama. When I got in the car, I had a couple of messages. One from work and the other from Aaron. He had gotten home, and the whole house was covered in vomit and poop - one of our dogs had obviously been violently ill all day. Everywhere.


While the two of us dug out from under the mountain of poop, we talked about his conversation with the nurse. She basically told him the same thing that she told me... but he was able to digest it better. Yes. The doc should have told us to get that test sooner. No, we most likely would NOT be able to be approved for this cycle. Being a few hours away from my initial shock, I started to handle this in the way I deal with issues at work. I asked Aaron if there was anything we could do about the doc not ordering the test sooner. He said no. And there is no way we can rush the insurance or the test.... so we need to acknowledge that mistakes were made and move on.

Do something about it instead of lamenting about what 'should have happened'.

So, as we finished cleaning up the mess, Aaron turned to me and said - why don't we just go out and have ice cream for dinner. And I smiled and just got into the car. It was 9 PM, I hadn't eaten since 11 AM, and I had pretty much to worst day I have had since the ectopic. A sundae for dinner sounded perfect.

The new plan (barring some miracle of insurance approval) is probably going to be that we just start this all next month. Start lupron in the middle of July, with ER end of July, early August. And pray that the first time is a charm. Last time I got pregnant was that exact same month - here's hoping!!!


Christy said...

I also had my IVF cycle delayed. We had psyched ourselves up to get it started in April. 2 weeks before we started a small polyp was found in my uterus, thus delaying us another month so that I could get it removed. I was devastated, to say the least! I mean, I was ready! I wanted to get the show on the road! The delay felt like a step back, and almost like defeat. However, the procedure to remove the polyp and IVF never came for us because I conceived naturally while waiting for the procedure. Of course, that failed miserably 10 weeks later. And now, IVF is off the table for the foreseeable future. And I'm OK with that. I guess my point is that I understand your frustration with the delay and that IF seems to be just full of delays despite our best planning, and that just stinks. I like to look at delays as extra opportunities for TLC (it beats thinking that the universe is out to get me). Enjoy your cycle off and take good care of yourself in preparation of the next.

Mary Ellen and Steve said...

How frustrating about that insurance stuff. They should have given you the information earlier. And a month to get approval? My old clinic gave me that line and my new clinic was able to get it done in four days. They can expedite it if they want to...

Ice cream for jealous.

Ann said...

I feel your frustration. I, too, am going through a prolonged delay--not because of a doctor's incompetence, but because of my own screwed-up body. You get yourself psyched for things to happen on certain days, and you even start thinking things like, "If I got pregnant, then my baby would be due at this time--which would be perfect!" And then, you encounter yet another roadblock. It sucks. There's no other way to describe it.

Serenity said...

You know, the delay I could handle because of a medical issue. What burns me about this is that it's INSURANCE PAPERWORK. Your RE should have passed you over to the insurance coordinator as soon as you said "ok, let's do IVF." GRRR!

(Sorry, this frustrates the HELL out of me - they are in the BUSINESS OF DOING IVF! You think they would have gotten it right by now).

Anyway. If ever there was a day for ice cream as dinner, it was most definitely yesterday. Hang in there, and I will keep my fingers crossed for the next cycle!

KPM said...

I'm so sorry that your cycle is delayed. Particularly since it didn't have to be. (How can docs be so lax about this?!)

It sounds like a sundae for dinner was definitely in order.

Geohde said...

I hear you on the frustration of delay.

Boo to your doctor and insurance company!